7 things to remember when being a Mum feels hard.

We have a toddler.

Need I say more?

Today was challenging and I struggled. Trying to get Arty down for his lunchtime nap was rough.

After two hours of check-ins, screams, a drink, three different blankets and cuddles..I accepted defeat.

I picked Arty up out of his cot and headed to the couch. We put Frozen on the telly, I had a cup of tea and Arty dunked granita biscuits in it.

I gave myself a gentle talking to. Here are seven things from my wiser, kinder, calmer self.

1. Having kids is hard.

It’s a huge challenge, one of the biggest we’ll ever experience. I’m not alone, nor are you in that it’s challenging for everyone.

It is hard and that’s a totally valid feeling.

2. It’s ok to put less energy and effort in sometimes.

Take an hour, half day or full day and be ok with NOT doing things the ‘right’ way at the extremely high standard you’ve probably set yourself. Its ok to relax them here and there.

Couch, Disney flix, biscuits, tea, loose pants. Our kids won’t learn life altering bad habits or turn into a hardened criminal.

3. No one can read my mind, including my kids or partner.

If you’re struggling and need someone to do or not do something, say so. Ask for help.

If you don’t ask you don’t get. We all need help in motherhood and parenting.

4. Your needs are equally important as your kids.

Don’t discount them.

5. The window with kids is small.

Spending every day with a little one before they’re off to school.

Being your kids hero before they’re more interested in hanging out with friends.

Living all together.

One day your house will be too tidy and too quiet.

But…

6. …Stop feeling guilty!!

If you get angry or you take motherhood and your beautiful family for granted for a day, or don’t 100% always bask in the joy of parenthood…don’t feel bad about it.

It’s impossible to be ON all of the time.

Guilt doesn’t help anyone or anything.

7. You’re stronger than you know. It’s your kids job to push you and show you your own strength.

You’re doing a great job even if you don’t feel it.

You’re the best person for the job of being mum to your kid.

No one is better than you at mumming them.

You’ve got this.

And you probably just need a really good night sleep ❤️

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If you feel lost as you play the motherhood game, you’re not alone. We’re all in the same wild and pooey, love filled boat. Feel free to connect in the chat and let me know how I might help you.